The psychology of men and women are very different when you look at how relationships work on a psychological level. There are simply differences in how men and women think and process the relationship. For instance, men initially rely heavily on the part of the brain that is excited by physical attraction, where women can be stimulated easier by other areas such as connection, comfort, and personality. Fortunately, men also have emotional triggers that are more powerful than anything else.

Much advice out there on getting back with your ex is geared at men. But the truth is that the same advice cannot be applied for both sexes.

So what does actually work for women? You must understand the relationship dynamic from a root level and be able to push his emotional “hot buttons.” The age old saying of “you always want what you can’t have” applies in this situation. Flipping the situation to make your man think that he was the one to be rejected can have incredible results. However, this must be done exactly the right way.

Using logic or arguing with him doesn’t work, and may actually just push him away. Have you already tried that? Have you noticed how no matter what you say, he just seems to find an excuse or not care?

At this point, its best to just leave it alone. This tactic doesn’t work and you are going to need a new approach. First, start out by dropping contact. You need to start creating an illusion in his mind to set him up for emotional hot-button pushing.

When you drop contact (after you’ve been calling / emailing / texting back and forth for months), his mind will begin to wonder what’s going on in your life. His mind will unavoidably start wondering and questions will start to form uncontrollably. He may start thinking, “why is she not calling?, Is she dating someone else? What is she doing with all her time?” These thoughts may not permeate immediately, but after a little while (1-2 weeks) they will start to come to him. These thoughts may start permeating into other areas of his emotional being where he can start to miss you… and that is right where you want him.

If he is at that stage, it still doesn’t mean he will contact you. Don’t worry. Men can sometimes place high value on not being “needy” or “trying.” If you call him, he may immediately go back to the mentality that you want him back… YES, even with ONE phone call, he may think this. You are trying to turn the tables and make him feel like HE is the one being rejected, and until you really achieve this, there is no way to change his mind.

So we must build up more. I don’t recommend that you actively avoid him (Don’t delete him on Facebook for instance) because that would seem like you are “reacting” to the situation. You want it to really seem like you “don’t care” either, and plus, leaving you “contactable” makes room for more anxiety about reuniting. It will eventually make him fantasize about how you can and will get back together.

There is much more to come, however this is maybe the most IMPORTANT step in starting to get your ex back.

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The Beginnings: From Breakup disaster to Winning My Love Back

A few years ago I had just gone through a very rough patch in my life when my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me.  It put me in a bad place–I was depressed, sad, angry.  I went though a bunch of different emotions and didn’t really know what to think.

At first I was shocked.  Then I began to wonder why he broke up with me.  I couldn’t figure it out because it didn’t make sense…. so I tried to reason with him. In fact, I basiclaly begged him to come back.  That didn’t work.

So I got really sad, and for a while, it was all I could think about.  Pretty much every time I woke up, the first thing on my mind would be him.  I would go to school and I’d think about him.  I’d go to work and think about him.  It was awful.

Periodically, that sadness morphed into anger.  My emotions did a dance between wanting him back, and wanting him to go away forever.  But I couldn’t reason with myself.  I just couldn’t let it go no matter how hard I tried.

The thing is, we had a great relationship, and the reason that we broke up didn’t make sense to me.  Time passed and I calmed down a bit.  But I realized that I really did love him.  We shared a speical kind of bond that I never had with any of my other boyfriends–we could talk for hours.  I shared deep things with him I never shared with anyone else.   We could do anything together or we could have fun doing nothing it all–it didn’t really matter.  Just us BEING together made me happy, no matter what we actually did.

When I thought about all the experiences we had together, I realized that we had something special, and I didn’t want to let it go to waste.  I couldn’t do that.  And I decided that I had to get him back.

Now my friends gave me lots of advice, some of it good and some of it awful.  A lot of them told me to just “get over him” but no one could really understand what kind of relationship I had.  No one was me. And at that point, I realized I had learned a very important lesson–

No one can tell you what you want.  You have to decided it for yourself.

So that’s what I did.  I stopped listening to everyone and I decided for myself, that I DID infact want him back, and I was going to do what it took to get him back.

From Desire to Action: Getting Him Back With A Plan

I started looking for some solid advice.  My friends had given me a bunch of advice, but I take everything with a grain of salt.  None of my girlfirends had lost a boyfriend and got him back like I was about to do so I decided to look on the internet.

In my searching, I found a bunch of advice.  Most of the advice was wishy-washy, feel good, or just plain wrong.  A lot of it said the same generic things that my friends had told me…like “it just takes time” or “you deserve better, just get it over it”…. Nothing really hit home with me…. until…

I found a book called “How to Get Him back Forever…”  Honestly, initially I was pretty apprehensive because it looked kinda cheesy.  When I read about it, it was the first thing that hit home with me.  Something about this was different.

Going for it: Why I bought How To Get Him Back Forever

Despite the appearnce, and the fact that I never had bought an ebook online, I decided to take action.  I read the page, which is actually pretty long and I was impressed.  There were a few things about the book that struck me

First, he nailed it on the kinds of things my boyfriend was saying like “I need space” and “let’s just be friends”…

Second, he talks about this interesting idea called “emotional hot buttons” which are basically things you can do to flip the switch and make your boyfriend want you.  Then it’s all layed out in a plan to get him back.  Now this sounded like some seriously interesting advice.

Putting the Plan into Action

The book was an easy read and it was written very logically–a very detailed blueprint that involved a few things I would have never thought of.  It really all makes sense when you think about it, even though some of it seemed counter intuitive.  I just followed the plan like Matt lays out in the book…. and guess what happened?

My boyfriend came crawling back.

Honestly, for all I worried about it, I’m so happy that it finally actually worked out.  I heard so many stories, but when I just put my belief in the fact that it could happen, and put that belief into action… it actualized itself.

It’s almost like movie ‘The Secret’ where you have to just start visualizing and beliveing that something can actually happen.  Except,  you can’t just visualize.  That’s only one part of it.  You have to visualize everything–from the beginning of getting him back to the end.  And in the middle you have to make a plan and follow it.  My plan was to get the book, and it all worked out in the end for me.

If you aren’t 100% determined to get your ex boyfriend back, then ‘How To Get Him Back Forever”  is not for you.

But if you are, I hope that my story has inspired you.

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